Christian dating does not have to be difficult. In fact, we’ll go on record saying that it isn’t difficult at all. If you are dating the right person and the two of you are both believers (true believers and followers of Christ), it will not be difficult. The difficulty in dating in general is incompatibility. Often times, some will date just to date, because they do not want to be alone, which leads to frustration and dead-end relationships. The relationship goes nowhere simply because there was no direction from the beginning. If you desire marriage, you simply cannot date whomever comes along that may have an interest in you. You must be compatible, and share the same morals, values, and beliefs. Some will say they are Christian but aren’t followers of Christ. If you’ve found yourself in relationships that frustrate you consistently, then you are likely dating the wrong persons.
Christian Dating Is Not Difficult
Consider two people meeting, organically while individually grabbing their morning coffee from a cafe they both regularly visit. This day in particular, they notice one another, and the man confidently approaches the woman with niceties and small talk, which leads to them exchanging numbers with a potential first date underway. During their initial conversation they both learn their love for God and their faith, their likes and interests, goals and so forth. He’s a perfect gentleman and asks her out and she agrees. During the first date the conversation is pleasant and goes very well. They learn more about one another and both have interest in someday getting married. At the end of the evening, he asks her for a second date. What they learn about each other along the way is that they are both committed to God and their faith walk and both have committed to holding off on intimacy until they are married. He respects her and they continue to date. They laugh together, always have the best time when they are together, and find it pleasant to be in each other’s company. There is no frustration—they’ve committed to one another and have decided to date exclusively and are dating with intent.
Wait For ‘The One’
This example is what prevents frustration with Christian dating. You must sometime say no to those whom you know right away is not the one for you. You don’t have to entertain anyone just to be nice. Avoid the frustration and do not waste time. Dating someone just to date can lead you to missing the one who is for you because your interest is elsewhere. Look at the example above. These are two individuals who are clear about their goals and expectations and intentions. They both learned that they had no interest in just dating to date. They both desired marriage and neither were interested in wasting each other’s time. More importantly, they were both individually committed to the covenant made to God to follow Him and do things the godly way. This is the recipe for a successful relationship. Take this example and recall it the next time you meet someone. Remember your faith and walk with Christ and never compromise for someone who is not where you are. Commit to doing things differently and you’ll notice the difference with whom you date and will place value on your time. Doing it the Christian way works. Remember, God will not send you someone that is going to frustrate you. God wants the best for you. It will be worth it to wait on God to send you your special someone. And when he comes along, you will know.
