Godly marriage are two people coming together as husband and wife because it is God that put the two of them together. Often times, God’s reason for placing a man and woman together is for ministry. It is almost always bigger than just the two of them as husband and wife and rather a larger purpose—ministry. This could be, first, ministry to one another. Recall that although God places the man and woman together, neither are perfect. But the love that the two have for one another and their love for and commitment to God proves that though they are imperfect, they can become perfected by being together. What do we mean? One person could have an insecurity about themselves or lacks confidence. It would not be coincidental that God partners them with someone who can help build their confidence, not because the person will preach to them, but simply by being in relationship with them. This is just one example of the many ways a husband or wife can minister to one another. Then, there’s ministry together. It may be in God’s will for the two of them to do ministry together. This could be building God’s church, pastoring together, or building a ministry as God leads them. This is godly marriage. It is a union put together by God. It is where God is at the front and center of their union and relationship. Both are not only committed to one another but are first and foremost committed to God. This is the first relationship that existed before he or she even knew one another or knew what they would be to one another. God is at the center of their union, now, until death do them part.
Godly Marriage is Until Death
From the very beginning of time, it is God that placed man an woman together. Adam and Eve were husband and wife, joined together by God, and because joined by God, the two became one.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 NKJV
And what God joins, let not man separate.
“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”” Matthew 19:6 NKJV
What God has joined together, let it not separate. The joining together as husband and wife are the two becoming one and even divorce cannot separate what God joined together. In other words, it isn’t unto Divorce, or when he or she grows tired of the marriage, it is unto death. It is not God’s will for someone to have multiple spouses, to marry and divorce multiple times. God’s expectation is that what he put together, nothing will separate it. This too is godly marriage, not walking away from the person that God called you to. Marriage is a calling and all are not called to wed. It is all up to God. So, before you say, “I do”, be certain that he came from God. Be certain. Marriage is a big deal and it is a high calling, put in place by God. Marriage is God-ordained. Sure, there are plenty of people marrying but it does not mean that God put them together. If you are uncertain about the person you’re about to join life with, step back and reconsider. Marriage is serious and should not be taken lightly. You should be super clear about who it is you’re dating and even more clear about the one whom you’re about to walk down the aisle with. If you aren’t clear, you are not ready. We advise you to step back and wait. Do not marry if you have doubts. Seek God and wait.
So, this is godly marriage, loving one another through good and not so good times and staying by each other’s side no matter what. Marriage is beautiful when done the right way. We are not in any way trying to deter you, we just want you to understand the seriousness of marriage and how high it is and how important it is to wait for God to send you your spouse. The wait will always be worth it. Think how beautiful of a relationship you’ll have by surrendering to God’s will and who he has for you. God knows your wants and desires. He also knows what you need. Wait for God to send you the right one. It will be worth the wait. In the end you’ll be so glad you waited for God to send you your life partner. And in doing so, we know that what he joins will be beautiful. You’ll see.
